Moving out with my boyfriend, Cree, is probably the best decision I’ve ever made. He had moved away 3 hours for university, and I was the one stuck travelling on the weekends in the harsh Canadian winters to see him. So it seemed like a no brainer to move in together. However, with today’s media it is so easy to get caught up in all the gleaming “what relationships should look like,” rather than what they’re really like.
Your relationship will change. You’re not always going to be in the “honeymoon phase” and it definitely won’t look like an Instagram page. So definitely don’t question whether you’re doing your relationship right, because we live in a reality where we only ever see the good on social media, and every relationship is different. Surprises will usually only come at special occasions, and you wont be going on dates every weekend. And that’s okay.
You both will learn to compromise. If he’s the average guy then he’s not going to make the bed, he’s going to leave dishes in the bedroom, he’s not going to change the toilet paper roll, and he’s going to throw his socks next to the laundry basket. And if you’re the typical woman then you’re going to get moody 1 week out of the month, your hair is going to be everywhere, and you’re going to get frustrated with things.
You’re going to have arguments. And it’s perfectly normal for a healthy relationship. You’re two separate people, raised two different ways, therefore you have your own ways about doing things. Don’t get me wrong, it can get tedious and ugly at times, but at the end of the day, as long as you both communicate honestly and openly, it’ll all be fine.
These are all something I’ve had to learn over the past three years, but just remember the good times WILL ALWAYS triumph over the worser days. So never give up on yourself, your partner and your relationship.